What is Bullying? | Parents

One of the biggest misunderstandings about
bullying is actually what bullying is and what the definition is. So, bullying is a
repeated pattern of intentional aggressive behavior between two children when there is
a power imbalance. So it has to be intentional. It, there has to be a power imbalance, and
it has to be aggressive. And if the conflict that your child is having does not meet those
three criteria, then it really wouldn’t be bullying. It may be some sort of conflict
with the other child, but it wouldn’t be bullying. If your child is experiencing bullying at
school, it is really important that you go and you speak with your child’s guidance counselor,
your child’s teacher, or the principal. Oftentimes what happens is that bullying takes place
behind the scenes of the grownups, so bullying will take place at recess. Where there are
150 children running around and not very many adults. Bullies are very, very good at hiding
what they’re doing from the grownups. And so a lot of the times teachers, guidance counselors,
administrators, we simply don’t know that a child is being a bully. So once you hear
from your child. That they are being bullying, bullied and it meets that definition. It is
so important that you go and speak with your child’s teacher or guidance counselor or principal.
And in addition to that, it is also really important to speak with your children and
talk to them about how to get along with others. Because some children simply have a hard time
comprising or having a high degree of empathy. So it is really important that you speak with
your children about those values.