Preventing Bullying Pt. 1


THEY’LL BE JOINING US IN-STUDIO TALK ABOUT THEIR TAP ROOM AND EVENTS THEY’RE HAVING. WELCOME TO “CENTRAL VALLEY TODAY”. THANK YOU FOR JOINING US. BULLYING AFFECTS ONE OUT OF FIVE TEENS IN HIGH SCHOOL A THROUGHOUT THE UNITED STATES. IT CAN AFFECT YOU MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY. JOINING US TO TALK ABOUT BULLYING AND HOW TO PREVENT IT, IS OUR JAZZY DOC JASMINE. THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME BACK. WE LIKE HAVING YOU BACK BECAUSE OF SUBJECTS LIKE THIS. THIS AFFECTS A TON OF PEOPLE. STATISTICS ARE STAGGERING. 20% OF HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS, THAT’S NO SMALL NUMBER. THAT’S A LOT OF PEOPLE. ABSOLUTELY. IF YOU HAD TO DEFINE BULLYING, WHAT IS IT? BULLYING IS DEFINED BY THE CDC OR CENTERS FOR DISEASE CONTROL, PERSISTENT PROGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR THAT SOMEONE IS PORTRAYING, AND THEY’RE TARGETED. SO TEASING, FOR EXAMPLE, IS NOT EXACTLY BULLYING PER SE, BECAUSE TEASING COULD BE A ONE TIME SITUATION. BUT BULLYING IS PERSISTENT. IT’S TARGETED. IT’S SOMEONE WHO IS MAYBE HAS A DIFFERENT SOCIAL RANK OR PERCEIVED ADVANTAGE THAN ANOTHER PERSON WHO IS MORE VULNERABLE. SO THAT’S HOW I WOULD DEFINE BULLYING. IT’S NOT JUST A PERSON, TOO. I MEAN CYBER BULLYING IS A BIG THING NOWADAYS. IT’S A BIG ISSUE. PTHERE’S SO MANY STUDIES COMING OUT. IT’S REALLY AFFECTING OUR YOUTH. SOCIAL MEDIA AND TELEVISION AND T.V. AND THE INTERNET, IT’S SUCH A BIG PART OF OUR LIVES. AND IT’S MEANT TO HELP COMMUNICATION, BUT ALSO, WITH THAT ADVANTAGE, THERE’S NEGATIVES OF POTENTIALLY BULLYING, CYBER BULLYING, AND VERBAL ABUSE. YEAH, WE WERE TALKING EARLIER, BACK WHEN WE WERE IN SCHOOL, YOU’RE ALREADY WORRIED ABOUT BOYS AND THINGS. GRADES. AND ADD ON A SOCIAL MEDIA ASPECT. I CAN’T IMAGINE WHAT THESE KIDS ARE GOING THROUGH. RIGHT. IT’S REALLY DIFFICULT. THE MENTAL HEALTH CONSEQUENCES OF THESE THINGS ARE JUST HORRIBLE. I MEAN, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY ARE RAMPANT. SO MANY CHILDREN OF THAT AGE WEAN 10-24, ARE SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY. AND WE JUST HAVE TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. ABSOLUTELY! WHAT ARE WE SEEING WITH SOME OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF BULLYING TO PEOPLE? WHAT IS HAPPENING? SO AS FAR AS THE MENTAL HEALTH CONSEQUENCES, IT CAN LEAD TO DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, AS WELL AS SELF-HARM AND SUICIDE. SUICIDE IS A MAJOR KILLER IN THIS POPULATION. SECOND, I BELIEVE, AFTER SOME OTHER CONCERNS. BUT IT’S SUCH A — THIS IS SUCH A POPULATION, WHERE MENTAL HEALTH CAN BE FATAL FOR THESE KIDS! AND SO ASIDE FROM THAT, THE BULLYING CAN LEAD TO NEGATIVE VIEWS OF SELF AND NEGATIVE VIEWS OF THE WORLD THAT PERPETUATE THROUGHOUT THEIR LIVES. THESE CHILDREN CAN GROW UP THINKING I’M WORTH SO LITTLE THAT OTHERS CAN ABUSE ME. OR THE WORLD IS SO NEGATIVE THAT BAD THINGS JUST HAPPEN. THAT’S HOW THEY VIEW THE WORLD. WHAT A HORRIBLE WAY TO GO THROUGH LIFE THINKING YOU ARE WORTH SO LITTLE. AND AFFECTING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM LIKE THAT. IT’S JUST VERY COMPLICATED. IT’S JUST AWFUL, COMPLETELY. IT IS. IT’S AWFUL. FOR PARENTS, ARE THERE ANY SIGNS OR ANYTHING THAT YOU MAY SEE THAT CAN KIND OF SHOW YOU YOUR KIDS MAYBE GETTING BULLIED? YEAH, IF YOUR CHILD IS ISOLATING MORE, THEY’RE KIND OF QUIET, TO THEMSELVES, NOT REALLY INTERACTING WITH YOU SO MUCH, FEELING DOWN, MAYBE CRYING OR MAKING STATEMENTS LIKE I WISH I WAS NEVER BORN OR I WISH I COULD RUN AWAY, THESE ARE ALL VERY PROMINENT SIGNS OF MAYBE AN UNDERLYING MOOD DISORDER. SOME KIND OF BULLYING OR TRAUMA THAT THEY’RE GOING THROUGH. I WOULD TELL PARENTS THAT CONSIDERING BULLYING IS SO RAMPANT, ASSUME YOUR CHILD IS BEING BULLIED. ASSUME THEY COULD BE BULLIED AT SCHOOL OR EVEN VIA THE INTERNET. OR SOCIAL MEDIA. THIS IS HAPPENING. AND PARENTS NEED TO BE AWARE AND INVOLVED. ABSOLUTELY. YEAH. IF YOUR KID IS, LIKE YOU SAID, ASSUME THEY’RE BEING BULLIED, WHAT ARE THINGS THEY CAN DO TO PREVENT IT OR MAKE IT GET BETTER? THE CDC, THE CENTERS FOR DISEASE CONTROL, HAS A HUGE INITIATIVE TO PREVENT BULLYING. IT CAN BE SUMMED UP IN ONE WORD, WHICH IS CONNECTEDNESS. THEY PROPOSE AS CHILDREN ARE CONNECTED TO THEIR FAMILIES, AND SCHOOLS, IT’S GOING TO PREVENT BULLYING. IF A PARENT IS MORE CONNECTED WITH THEIR CHILD AND CHILD TO PARENT, THEY CAN OPENLY DISCUSS MORE WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIFE IN A CALM, COLLECTED MANNER. AND THEN, ALSO IF A CHILD HAS MORE FRIENDS AT SCHOOL, THEY HAVE A GROUP, A SUPPORT NETWORK TO HELP THEM. LET’S SAY THEY GET TARGETED FOR SOME REASON, THEIR SUPPORT NETWORK COULD MAYBE COME TO THE RESCUE OR STOP THE BULLY. AND THE CHILD CAN FEEL COMFORTED AND SEEN AND PART OF A COMMUNITY BOTH AT HOME AND SCHOOL, IF THEY HAVE STRONG SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS. SO THAT IS VERY, VERY ESSENTIAL. ANYTHING THAT HELPS PROMOTE THE CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM AND THEIR ABILITY TO THEN KIND OF STAND UP TO A BULLY IS REALLY IMPORTANT! HAVING ACADEMIC SUCCESS, FEELING NURTURED AT HOME. FEELING SUPPORTED AT SCHOOL WITH APPROPRIATE, YOU KNOW, SUPERVISION FROM ADULTS, TEACHERS, COACHES. BEING CONNECTED TO OTHERS HELPS SELF-ESTEEM AND HELPS LOWER STRESS. AND THUS, CAN PREVENT BULLYING. IT MAKES SENSE. YOU HAVE THE SUPPORT SYSTEM. ABSOLUTELY. WHEN YOU’RE LOW, THEY BRING YOU BACK UP. AT WHAT POINT DO YOU THINK FROM ALL OF THAT, IF THAT HASN’T WORKED. WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND? WOULD YOU HAVE THEM TALK TO SOMEONE? IF YOU FIND YOUR CHILD IS CTED ENOUGH, YOU CAN HAVE THEM SEEK MENTAL HEALTH TREATMENT. THAT MEANS MEDICATION OR TALKING TO A THERAPIST. IT’S REALLY IMPORTANT THAT THE CHILD, IF THEY HAVE DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY, THAT BE TREATED. IF IT’S NOT, IT CAN LEAD TO CHRONIC DEPRESSION, CHRONIC STRESS. MORE OF A LIKELIHOOD IN THOSE CASES TO HAVE SUICIDE OR SELF-HARM. YOU DON’T WANT THAT FOR SURE! I MEAN, THAT’S SOMETHING WE REALLY WANT TO PREVENT. SO MENTAL HEALTH TREATMENT, IT’S VERY IMPORTANT FOR ALL PEOPLE, BUT ESPECIALLY FOR THIS TENDER AGE. YOU’RE GOING THROUGH A LOT AT THIS AGE! YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF, YOUR IDENTITY, YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION, MAYBE YOUR GENDER ORIENTATION. THERE’S SO MANY THOUGHTS. YOURSELF AND THE WORLD, THAT YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL THAT NOTHING HARMS THAT PROPER DEVELOPMENT. ABSOLUTELY. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THOSE TIPS. YOU’RE WELCOME! MAKING SURE OUR KIDS ARE HAPPY THROUGHOUT THE SCHOOL YEAR. WE’RE NOT DONE YET. COMING UP, WE’LL TALK MORE WITH DR. JASMINE ON BULLYING AND HOW TO HANDLE IF YOUR KID IS THE ONE DOING THE BULLYING.