Jay Shetty’s Ultimate Advice for Students & Young People – HOW TO SUCCEED IN LIFE

My parents had a maths tutor for me
because they wanted me to be amazing at math I was pretty good at numbers and I’d have
this tutor and he’d tell me that, he goes. The reason that you’re
struggling with the next question is because you’re always worried
about what your parents think. And, and that really stayed in my head. I was just like wow, so as long as
I’m trapped by what my parents think I can actually never find the answers
to the real questions of life. Most of us just throw
ourselves into the deep end and then try swimming and figuring it out The problem is we all
went to normal schools that try to put stuff in us
rather than takes stuff out of us. You know, you were told at school
that you weren’t very good and you weren’t good at English and now you have
a New York Times Bestseller, right? And it’s like, no one noticed
that potential inside you. No one noticed that
“Oh, Lewis was really creative” and you’re not the only person, there’re
so many people who feel like that. So the modern schooling system didn’t extrapolate your
Self-actualization, your element and just try to put maths,
English, science inside. So the point is that you’re trying
to get to such a strong foundation that when you interact in the world you’re going with a sense of strength,
fuel, energy to make a difference rather than going into
the world and then going “Oh my god, where am I?”
trying to figure it out. People were so far removed from
their own understanding of themselves that they were either lost living
a life they didn’t want to, Lost living up to someone
else’s expectations or lost becoming someone
to impress someone else. How many of you have a crazy
dream or a crazy goal? I want you to write out
in the comment section What is your crazy dream? The dream that keeps you up at night is the real dream you should be chasing but to chase that dream, to find that dream,
to make that dream a reality you need a strategy, right? A dream without a plan is just
a wish, Tony Robbins said that Right! “A dream without
a plan is just a wish” You can’t be what you can’t see. If I never saw a monk, I would have
never wanted to be a monk if I never meet a billionaire,
I wouldn’t want to be one because I wouldn’t know
what that feels like I don’t know what it looks like,
I don’t know what it takes. What am I good at? What do I love? What does the world need? and how do I get paid for it? To me those four help
you unlock your passion. I often say to people,
“Your passion is for you, your purpose is for others.” Your passion makes you happy but when you use your passion to make
a difference in someone else’s life that’s a service, that’s a purpose. My goal has never been
financially or materially oriented I see that stuff as the byproduct
of doing what you love I genuinely, genuinely believe that it’s always been that way around for me. My focus is to create entertainment that truly has educational value but without us always knowing it. I think we all learn best when
we don’t know that we’re learning if we’re all pushed into a classroom
and told we have a class we’re all not listening Start at a place where you have self-awareness,
self-actualization. You have figured out what works
for you, what your strengths are So I think it starts
even at a physical level Anyone who’s a physical fitness
or health coach will know that different bodies need different food, different sleep,
different fluids we don’t all need the same thing. Me and you with different body
types can’t do the same workout. Our bodies have different
tolerances in different things that’s self-awareness
at the physical level. We know our limits,
we know what we can do, we know what we can’t do,
we know what a challenge is. On a mental level, what’s self-awareness? Knowing what type
of people I like to be with knowing who helps me grow
and who drains me. That’s mental self-awareness. I believe that the answers come from within and we’re not asking the right questions. I feel we’re always looking for
the right answers not the right question. And the biggest companies
that we respect today the biggest organizations, all came
from trying to answer a question. It all came from trying to solve a problem or a question that we
were able to identify. So my work comes from
a very simple study that I read that said, “The most successful
people in the world choose education over entertainment and the most unsuccessful
people in the world choose entertainment over education.” I Know people who graduated at 21 and didn’t get a job till they were 27 I know people who graduated late at 25 and they found work immediately. I know people who never
went to university but found what they loved at 18. I know people that have found a job
straight out of college. making decent money, but hate what they do. I know people who took gap
years and found their purpose. I know people who were so sure about
what they were going to do at 16 and change their mind at 26. I know people who have
children but are single. and I know people who are married but have had to wait
8 to 10 years to have children. I know people in relationships who love someone else. I know people who love each other but aren’t together. So my point is everything in life happens
according to our time, our clock. You may look at some of your friends
and think that they’re ahead of you maybe some of them you feel are behind. But everything happens at their own pace. They have their own time and clock and so do you be patient. At age 25, Mark Cuban
was a bartender in Dallas It took till 32 for J.K. Rowling
to be published for Harry Potter after being rejected by 12 publishers. Ortega launched Zara when he was 39. Jack Ma started Alibaba when he was 35 Morgan Freeman got his big break at 52 Steve Carell only got his break
after 40 years old. Virgin was started by
Richard Branson at 34. Getting your degree after 25
is still an achievement not being married at 30
but still happy is beautiful. Starting a family after
35 is still possible. And buying a house after 40 is still great Don’t let anyone rush you
with their time-lines because as Einstein said “Not everything that counts can be counted and not everything that’s
counted truly counts.” and this is the most important thing. I want you to be able to create meaningful, purposeful,
fulfilling lives for yourselves and learn how to use that to make an impact and a difference
in the lives of others. That will be true success. Priority is on the root of things not the leaf of the symptoms. You’re not dealing with your
challenges at symptomatic level you’re dealing with it at root level. Right! people say, “I’ll just rest,
I’ll just take a stress pill” “If you’re stressed out
just go to get a massage.” “If you’re stressed out just
relax watch Netflix and chill” but all that’s doing
is pacifying you escape for that hour, two hours, maybe a week But going to the root of it and learning
how to change your breath then you can manage any situation in life. Always go to the root. It will take longer,
but it will last longer. Always go to the root, cut down
the root of that weed in your heart. Cut down the root of
that weed in your mind. Don’t just let it grow
and kind of water it a little bit and snip snip cut it a little bit just really go to the root,
just knock it out. Get rid of it, get a big axe
and cut it down. The biggest weeds that
we all get is in our intention So when I say intention I mean my current intention is to
use everything I’ve been given everything that I have
in the service of others. But every day that intention which is
a beautiful little plant that’s growing gets weeds around it. No, do it for the money just do it for the fame,
do it for the followers do it for this all these weeds are like growing around
my real intention every day. Every day that’s a weed a weed is the intention
that you don’t want and the problem is sometimes
you’ve let it grow so much the weed looks like the plant and you start believing
it’s the same thing. I’ve always had friends
who are older than me, and I can see a lot of them
in the most successful careers successful jobs beautiful partners whatever it was. But I saw a sense of lack of fulfillment
meaning and purpose in that lives. And I’ve always been an observer and I would see these people
are like 5 years old than me 7 years older than me, maybe
10 years older than me. And I’d be watching them and go
“Is that the life I want?” and often the advice
I give to people today is Fast-forward where you are look at yourself in 10, 15, 20 years time and ask yourself the question Is that where I want to be? I think it’s Thomas Edison who says “When you feel you’ve
exhausted every option remember you haven’t.” And Einstein said, “if you judge
a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will spend its whole life
believing that it’s stupid.” and too many of us are fish
trying to climb a tree. Too many of us are monkeys
being taught how to swim. Too many of us are lions
being taught to live like cats. We’re not getting to live in our element Live in that element that
you’ve naturally been given. Don’t try to adopt another you know, we’ve all got
a special genius inside of us.