Dr. Phil To Guest: ‘There Comes A Point When You Have To Stop Playing The Victim And Start Being …


I think you were well-intentioned I do and I I would stand before any judge and say you love your daughter I have no question about that whatsoever and I mean that in all sincerity and look I’m trained as a forensic psychologist and I’ve worked as an officer of the court a number of times to evaluate the fitness of a parent and this is not a close call now I am required by law to do one of two things if I see a child that I think is in danger either through negligence or active abuse then I have to do one or two things I either have to intervene and change that situation or I have to report it within 24 hours and I’m going to do one of those two things and I want what’s best for my child I believe that being kicked out of the house isn’t the way to do that okay well you made the decision to have the child it’s your child it’s not their responsibility and there comes a point when you have to stop playing the victim and start being responsible [Applause] [Music] because right now I really think you know sometimes we get so close to something that we really can’t see it very well and when you’re trying to make sense out of nonsense I mean you’re defending your life choices you know I look that you’re moving around here a lot of it with your daughter and getting of getting abused here and abused there and and all and you know they’re basically it buries a little language-wise from state to state but there are 10 basic criteria for the fitness of a parent and you’re violating at least five of the ten I don’t and you know the requirements are that you provide a safe stable and secure environment and you certainly don’t do that maintain a loving stable consistent nurturing relationship with the child I think that’s questionable your impulse control today certainly suggests otherwise attend to the daily needs of the child feeding clothing physical care I have no reason to doubt that you do that attend to the adequate education too early for that provides for the financial support of the child ability to identify and prioritize the child’s needs ahead of your own I don’t think that’s happening ability to empathize with and meet the child’s needs I don’t think that’s happening regulate impulses and that ain’t happenin assists a child in development and maintaining appropriate relationships I you know I just don’t know exercise appropriate judgment regarding the child’s welfare you know I I have to tell you if if I was assigned to this case it wouldn’t be a close call so what does that mean that means those just go on a to-do list does it mean you’re a bad person doesn’t even mean you’re a bad mother it just means those things go on a to-do list that you need to rectify I agree