Discrimination In Workplace 💼

Hey, what’s up, John Sonmez from simpleprogrammer.com. Today I want to address an issue that I’ve
addressed in various ways before most specifically I did this video called I Literally Don’t
Give A Shit where I sort of addressed some of these ideas. It comes up a lot. A lot of people—I’ll post another video
before I even talk about this which is—I did this video on victim mentality. Don’t be a victim. You can see where I’m going to go with this
here. This subject still comes up, it comes up a
lot and this is one of the limiting beliefs that can really, really hurt you not just
in your career but in your life is this idea of taking this victim mentality, of caring
what other people think, of not just dealing with life and overcoming what you need to. Rescue helicopter that’s—all right. This question comes from our friend. It’s more of a rant than a question here. He says, “I’ve applied to things like
a retail job and all of them have turned my applications down. I decided to look what I had done wrong. I showed 4 of my teachers my application to
see if they can see anything that would make it easy for them to hire me. I am an above average student; got good grades
so I can’t think that was the problem. I had good work experience before. They couldn’t see what was wrong with my
application until 2 of the 4 teachers I had asked saw that it may be of my name and race.” Then he goes on and he’s got more about
this. He said that 2 of his friends that are not
the same race at him had an interview and essentially he showed their applications to
the teachers and the teachers said, “Well, yours is better” and stuff. The thing is like, okay, I’ve said this
before. I’m trying to think of a good video to point
to about this specifically. I can’t think of any. There are few of them. You can definitely check out some of my videos
if you look up stuff on discrimination and whatnot. I’ve talked about this in various aspects. But here’s the thing, I’m not stupid,
okay? A lot of you think that I am when I give this
kind of advice saying, “Oh, just overcome. You can do it, bro!” But what—I understand that discrimination
occurs and racial discrimination occurs, sexism occurs, all kinds of discrimination occurs,
but you can’t control that. Unless you’re going to do a million man
march or you’ve got millions or billions of dollars and you’re going to invest in
creating a movement to change things and you’re really actually going to flip people’s minds
or make regulations or laws, not that I think that those are actually even very effective,
but unless you’re going to take it to that level what you’ve got to worry about is
you, what you can do and how you can influence the immediate circle of influence that you
have around you. There’s a really good book called The 7
Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and you should read that. He talks about the sphere of influence and
how to widen your sphere of influence. That’s what you need to focus on. So many people, again, I’m not accusing
our friend here of necessarily doing this, but it appears that he might be, they focus
on the stuff that they can’t control and what other people are doing to them. Okay, so someone is discriminating against
your race and your name. Actually, you know what, I remember the video. I did this, the last professional shoot I
did. I did this video about your name, about changing
your name. Check out that video. Some people are like, “Oh, that’s so offensive. How could you tell someone to legally change
their name?” Well, I’m sorry, but if your first name
is Mohammed and you are applying for jobs in the US you may—you are likely to be discriminated
against. I will even say that you’re likely, you
may, some people aren’t going to care, but some people will, so maybe you should just
change that or use a nickname or something so you don’t have to face that. Not that you should be embarrassed of your
name. It’s a cool name. Great! I’m glad that you have that name, but you’ve
got to realize what is reality. That’s the advice that I’m giving in this
situation. Look, I don’t know if discrimination is
happening. First of all, some people jump to—that’s
a really easy thing to do is to jump to oh that you’re being discriminated against. It might just be luck. It might just be a numbers game. A lot of times what happens is people that
are quick to jump the gun and say that they’re being discriminated against they’re the
people that have poor attitudes, unfortunately and that comes across in everything they do,
from what they write to how they present themselves because they’re expecting to fail. They’re expecting to be discriminated against. They’re carrying a chip on their shoulder
and people are very perceptive to these things. They know there’s something off with this
person and is not quite right. A lot of times it’s a self-fulfilling prophesy. You’re causing them to discriminate against
you, not necessarily against your race or your religion or anything like that, but against
you because of how you present. That’s number one is be aware of that that
that might be the case and it might just be a numbers game. If you applied for 4 jobs and you didn’t
get any of them that’s—what is that? That’s nothing. Apply for 50 jobs. If you apply for 50 jobs and you feel like
you’re qualified for all of them and you go into the job interview and someone makes
a racial slur at you, okay, now you’ve got a case. Now I’m going to say, all right, all right
let’s talk about that. Even if it is the case though, even if that’s
the case, what are you going to do about it? What can you do? Like I said, you can do something to affect
your name, you can do things that are going to help to limit the discrimination that’s
being done against you, but based on—I mean there’s a lot of things you can do from
your name to how you dress, to how you act, to how you behave, to the information you
present. It doesn’t mean you have to be embarrassed
of this stuff but you’ve got to face reality and deal with reality. Then you can just overcome it. At some point some people are going to have
higher barriers than other people in life. We were not all dealt the same hand of cards. It depends on context. Where you’re at in the world one thing that
might be a disadvantage might actually be an advantage so it depends on context. You might need to just change your environment
where something that was a disadvantage is an advantage. But you need to become an overcomer. You need to become the kind of person that
says, “You know what? Fuck it! They’re going to discriminate against me? Fuck it! I’m going to be so good. I’m going to hit so many jobs. I’m going to show them—I don’t care. It’s harder for me. Fine. Great. That means that I’m going to develop the
kind of character from adversity that no one else is able to develop because I’m going
to overcome this stuff. I’m going to become better so that even
if I only have a 1% chance of getting a job when other people have a 50% chance I’m
going to apply to so many jobs, I’m going to do such a fantastic job that I’m going
to get that job and I’m going to develop my character along the way.” I know that seems unfair to you, and it is
unfair, but what else are you going to do about it? You’re just going to cry and you’re going
to complain? You’re going to give up? You give me another choice. You’re going to change the world by complaining? No. You tell me what else. What else? What other advice would you give? You see what I’m saying? Do what’s practical. Do what makes sense to you to be able to live
your life and not constantly be held captive by this. Someone can discriminate against you, but
you can only be discriminated against if you allow someone to. I know that seems a little bit weird and offensive. What I mean by that is you get to choose how
you interpret the situation. You can choose to interpret the situation
as, “They don’t know what they’re missing, bro. It’s fine. Great. You don’t like me because of my name or
my religion or the color of my skin. That’s cool. I’ll prove you wrong. I don’t care. That’s cool. I understand that. That’s cool.” That’s what I’m saying. If you like this video click the subscribe
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